Travelogue

This page was created for friends who wanted details beyond tango about my European tour in 2014. That tour resulted in meeting Roberto and moving to Berlin! I have continued to update it occasionally when I write about my travels.

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Travels in tears

Traveling is not all fun,  and can even glue highs and lows back to back… A good milonga can end badly.  New friends can leave

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Maestro’s reflections

He shared one criterion he uses for observing a dance: “Would that dance make sense if they were alone in a room?” I loved his idea because I am well aware that my best tangos happen at the end of the night, when no one is watching and it’s more likely that my partner and I fuse and travel beyond space, time, and mind.

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And then when you least expect it

Tango’s magic and mystery can return as easily as it faded away. Tonight I danced with the best dancer of my life. I’ll call him

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Too early

It seems inevitable that when I arrive too early to a Milonga,  I end up wondering what the hell I am doing with my life. 

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Zurich first night last tanda

Guy asks DJ “What’s the next music going to be?“ “A mix with some interesting stuff.” “Who do I dance with? ” “Her.” [Me. What

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Consumption, creativity, celebrity

This is the beginning of a theory,  about life,  about dancing,  about asking the big questions. I think we are faced with some choices about

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Follow the music, and other evasive truisms

I’m having conversations with people about this restricted “marathon-style” dancing. There are several standard explanations,  all of which are truisms,  applicable to All tango,  and, 

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The uninvited.

We didn’t do it on purpose. A2 and B2 wanted to get together again and we settled on Thursday.  They suggested organising a group to

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Keep the candles burning

It wasn’t promising at first.  Three couples dancing insipidly.  Ten men sunk deep into boxlike chairs from which it looked difficult to get up.  It

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And then there’s Neukölln

I think today I arrived to the Berlin way.  I had a 3 hour lunch with Astrid,  sitting on the edge of the sidewalk.  She

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The deeper cabeceo

Globally,  the best coffee is served in places with inadequate and injurious seating… Black Star and Blue Bottle in Sydney and San Francisco. Here in

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Pathos princesses

There are these tango women,  the successes (“professionals”). They look intelligent and they look like they’ve given up a lot for this bit of glory. 

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Milongas oscillation

Went back and forth again tonight between two milongas,  but these were only 3 blocks apart. And at one of them I discovered that the

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How to Berlin

Buy a monthly subway pass so can wander around without doing math and fingering robots all the time… €78. There’s a special ticket for tango

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Victims and angels

After last night’s self-induced disaster I realized that I needed to get serious.  The first thought in my head this morning was “the point is

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Bolting

Wow, I thought I was free of this. In Dresden I wrote in my notebook that I was over the addiction. In fact it seemed

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Travels in tears

Traveling is not all fun,  and can even glue highs and lows back to back… A good milonga can end badly.  New friends can leave

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Queer desires

I had some idea about what I would learn on this trip.  Predictably it is different. I am learning something about the construction of desire.

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Mainlining Joy

What makes queer tango different? Not so much the composition of the couple,  or the exchange of roles.  What stands out is how people feel

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Queer goes to church

Wow what a beautiful space!  Very very slippery,  but a gorgeous space,  an entire church nave to play in.  Even a little energetic music,  after

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Queer Night 2

Felt awful today,  beyond tired.  The last few days I wake up feeling that sleeping is a lot of work.  Dehydration,  maybe? The exhaustion didn’t

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Berlin Queer Tango festival opens

Well it was a pretty big night. First of all,  the level was very nice.  The tendency to jerkiness which has characterised most qt events

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What’s with the Hips?

Boring as the marathon was,  I did notice that every single mark there maintained hip flexion at all times on the dance floor.  I carefully

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Milonga Strandbar

Tangotourist in Berlin, Summer 2014 This milonga reminded me of the milonga at Plaza Dorrego in BsAs. Colored lights,  tourists drinking wine,  smiles and dancers

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Home Berlin

Tangotourist in Berlin, Summer 2014   I had  a coffee yesterday.  Probably should have done that a week ago.  I feel almost normal today. So

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NOW I’m in Heaven

Tangotourist in Berlin, Summer 2014 Broken bus, lost luggage, and M and I arrive Tango Loft in shorts and sandals, famished, at 0030. They give

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And then it’s over

Tangotourist in Europe, Summer 2014 An abrupt ending to an endless weekend. I can’t tell if I liked it or not. But I’m sad it’s

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Marathon psych

Tangotourist in Europe, Summer 2014 Runners have to train for the psychological challenge of marathon chemistry. Your body goes into death mode and you want

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So a tango marathon, or at least this one

Tangotourist in Europe, Summer 2014 I imagined something considerably more hippy. More friendly, More informal, younger. It’s mixed ages (which I like), it’s definitely going

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(A little) life in Dresden

Dresden reminds me of Wellington. A sweet counterculture with a worldly feel but small enough that you can easily get anywhere. Eating ice cream seems

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Life berlin

G has loaned me a nice rolling weekend case so I travel with dignity. I really wanted to avoid the backpack, and what with my

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Tango Vicioso at Insomnia

Tangotourist in Berlin, Summer 2014 Some of my friends said I must see tango at Insomnia and others spent 30 minutes trying to dissuade me.

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Tango class

Tangotourist in Berlin, Summer 2014 I am sitting in a Berlin tango class, sitting because there are no extra revels. When one came in I

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Clärchens Ballhaus I and II

The physical and institutional organization of tango in Berlin: * spaces: cool rooms may be used several times a week by different organizers for milongas

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Milonga Popular

Tangotourist in Berlin, Summer 2014 A major benefit of dancing tango is walking home through cities quiet for dawn. Even if the milonga was uninspiring.

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Taste of Freedom at Walzerlinksgestrickt

Tangotourist in Berlin, Summer 2014 Tonight we went to Milonga Ballhaus Walzerlinksgestrickt. A formal room with gold columns and red velvet. At first it seemed

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What this photo tells you is that I live across the street from the ice cream shop, so I just take my bowl in my

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Maestro’s reflections

He shared one criterion he uses for observing a dance: “Would that dance make sense if they were alone in a room?” I loved his idea because I am well aware that my best tangos happen at the end of the night, when no one is watching and it’s more likely that my partner and I fuse and travel beyond space, time, and mind.

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Sorry it’s raining

She was able to wait list me for a flight 6 hours later, sending me with trepidation back to Air Berlin for a boarding pass and luggage rerouting. Fortunately there had been a shift change since my first contact at 630 am who barked at me “why are you telling me that?” as I looked up my flight number to be helpful. The new one said “I don’t care about class codes and gave me a confirmed seat. “Don’t hang around the airport, take they subway to the city. Sorry it’s raining.”

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I don’t think you can tango in hiking boots anyway (18 hours in Kuala Lumpur)

Final completed itinerary: 0500 Express train KUL to Sentral Station. Commuter train to Batu Caves. Commuter Train back to Dang Wangi for breakfast at Yut Kee. Walk through Jalan Melayu neighborhood on the way to Tasik Perdana. Islamic Arts Museum. Beautiful Kuala Lumpur station to Sentral. Walk Jalan Tun Sambanthan in Brickfields in search of Yarl’s Corner restaurant that has moved. Banana leaf at Vishal. Bukit Bintangm, Sungei Wang, Jalan Alor. Because of the monorail breaking, there’s no transport to or from this part of town. Walk down Jalan Ceylon to Masjid Jamek. Train to the towers at KLCC. Fall asleep on park bench, wake up to prayer calls and rainbow water fountain show. Train back to Sentral for airport express. Arrive KUL 20:50.

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Europe 2014 Itinerary

Updated: 9-16 July Berlin … 16-20 July Dresden … 21July-13August Berlin … 13-21 August Zurich … 21-27 August Istanbul

Themes

Important Insights

Books

Power is the courage, confidence, and competence to make things happen. I want to create in a way that’s incomparable and define my own compensation package. You too?

Syntax of Power is a raw, potent, and spare revelation of how I got to where I am and how I take on the struggle every day.

This book is not about tango, it’s about everything else.

It’s about stepping into the darkness of change, learning how to take care of yourself, and making things happen.

Dyv stands for Duro y Vio. We were inspired by a 2007 conference at Harvard University about tango as a transnational culture. Also we wanted to create something that would help people to imagine a queerer tango. We forbid ourselves to use the word ‘passion’ and instead tried to articulate the experience more precisely.

Argentine Tango is more than an elaborate and difficult dance, it is an international culture of intimacy, desire, and dignity. No mere romance or memoir, the intricately woven stories evoke tango’s true mysteries … the elation, the frustration, the compulsion…

We published the book in 2009. Dancers asked “how did you know what I was feeling?”

Silences in history. Silences by code. Silences of fear. You already know that Tango’s silences can be sublime and they can be devastating.

What I do in my blog is use myself as a lens – sometimes a microscope, sometimes a telescope. I try to be as honest with myself and you as words concede. Then I try to find a deeper meaning and imagine a pathway for us.

A blog post can be a fragment, a wisp of inspiration, an outline for thinking. A book must complete and reconcile it all. Now I drag the social scientist to the scene to enumerate the facts of the case, the mystery which brought both stardom and tragedy to my life.

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