The fine print in the small talk

Argentine Tango’s codigos for flirting on the dance floor: How do you know if s/he likes [dancing with] you and what should you do if you do?

Hugs and Laughter

This is a complicated point. Please read it very very carefully. I am interested in how we manage people and our own emotions. I call these our control systems. I am also interested in the the way that traditional tango etiquette protects our egos. (I do believe that all dancers’ egos need to be protected. […]

How to be a Good Man, as you become an Advanced Tanguero

Congratulations! After years of hard work, you are now mastering this dance! You can make girls feel really good and happy.  Girls are starting to look for you, snuggle you, hang around you. This feels great! You’re a nice guy; you are not planning to use your newfound advantage to become a womanizer, but you […]

Why I don’t ask marks to dance…

Fábian Pérez tango painting

The line of dance is not the only thing that circles. So do the arguments about tango. It feels more productive to use the term ‘spiral’, because then we feel we are getting somewhere, either spiraling out away from the familiar territory, or getting in closer to the deep truths. Pick your direction. (But please […]

Emotions on the dance floor

Muscle control is just the entry ticket to the party. We still have choices to make about how to interact, what parts of ourselves to share, and how deeply we seek to connect.

The power of desire

One of the most painful parts of tango for aRrevel is waiting, or sitting. It makes us feel passive and powerless when we wait for someone –anyone– to ask us for a dance. This is a mistaken perception of the situation and revels can develop a deeper understanding of what is going on.

How long do you dance with one person? (the tanda)

How long does a tango last?

We dance three or four songs with one person – this is called a “tanda”, sometimes separated with 15-30 seconds of contrasting music, called a cortina (curtain). If there is no cortina, you can just count four songs.
It’s rude to leave your partner before the end of the tanda.

How do dancers manage the intimacy of tango? (the codigos)

Romain Baillon tango photo

The codigos of tango are a set of “codes” that make some structure around the intimacy of tango.

Etiquette Guide to the Codigos and Beyond

The codigos guide social interaction when tango is being danced. They respect the sanctity of the dance and take care of dancers’ feelings and egos.