21 December

Politness, Rebooted

My heart was still pounding, and I felt guilty. Was it really more rude to interrupt than to flee the event without explanation? No. Could there be a sweet way to interrupt? Surely. At least 10.

And fleeing didn’t actually free me. The project of being polite until I hit my limits and then fleeing not only puts me through a cycle of suppression, rage, and destructiveness. It also means abandoning the relationship in helplessness and hopelessness.

So, a new invocation: Be Rude Sooner!

A refocusing interruption is in the interest of dialogue and developing a relationship, as well as respecting my own time and emotions.

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