For some time I’ve been less concerned about dancing as an issue of level, and more concerned with the relationship. If I feel we are developing together and I have the chance to contribute and shape that development, dancing is satisfying, regardless of level. But when I dance with someone who is not interested in having an ongoing and dialogic relationship, it’s both less secure and less attractive, even if he is a very good dancer.
When students come to me with respect and enthusiasm, even if their dancing is very limited I’m quickly able to get them to a point that I can enjoy dancing with them. This is partly because I have refined, effective teaching methods, but partly because I feel engaged by their dancing. I can feel them growing in my arms, and I am involved in it. This brings a sense of satisfaction and possibility that I could never experience in an anonymous tanda with such a dancer.
