cabeceo

Why I don't ask marks to dance...

Why I don’t ask marks to dance…

The line of dance is not the only thing that circles. So do the arguments about tango. It feels more productive to use the term ‘spiral’, because then we feel we are getting somewhere, either spiraling out away from the familiar territory, or getting in closer to the deep truths. Pick your direction. (But please […more]

The deeper cabeceo

The deeper cabeceo

Globally,  the best coffee is served in places with inadequate and injurious seating… Black star, double eye,  the Barn.  If there are enough chairs and a table of the appropriate height this is a bad sign for the coffee. So I am drinking my thoroughly excellent espresso on the steps of the church,  meditating on […more]

The reverse cabeceo

The reverse cabeceo

It’s when a follower does the man’s cabeceo to a leader. She walks directly up to him, establishes eye contact, and gives him a nod. Um…There’s more to the cabeceo than the repudiation of sound. Perhaps more fundamentally, it’s a repudiation of demand, from either party.

The power of desire

The power of desire

One of the most painful parts of tango for a revel is waiting, or sitting. It makes us feel passive and powerless when we wait for someone –anyone– to ask us for a dance. This is a mistaken perception of the situation and revels can develop a deeper understanding of what is going on. Your […more]

If you're so openminded about tango, why do you use the cabeceo?

If you’re so openminded about tango, why do you use the cabeceo?

It’s painful to sit as a revel waiting to be asked for a dance. Marks feel a lot of stress in having to make the approach. And many people feel that the codigos and the cabeceo reinforce old fashioned gender roles about male privilege and female passivity. I’ve felt the anxiety that accompanies both roles, […more]

Etiquette Guide to the Codigos and Beyond

Etiquette Guide to the Codigos and Beyond

Etiquette guide to the codigos and beyond, including the Queer Cabeceo… The codigos guide social interaction when tango is being danced. They respect the santity of the dance and take care of peoples feelings, and egos.